1) Trust: If you truely love that someone, you will trust that person in every situation. whether it comes to another member of the opposite sex or being away from each other for a period of time. you must believe that if the other party really does like you, he or she will know better to not betray your trust. if the person does go over board in anything, he or she is not worth your love.
2) Life: You must have a life besides your significant other. always remember that your world does not revolve around her, neither does her world revolve around you. give the person you love enough breathing space, for suffocation can kill the relationship. unless mutual want or agreed, nobody likes to be tied down. give him or her the time he or she needs.
3) Don't take advantage: Don't take for granted of the kindness of your love one. he or she might not visibly show his or her dissatisfaction towards you but you know better to control yourself. don't kick a fuss if you don't get what you want. listen to the other person's view. respect it. don't feel like as if you should be treated like queen or king just because the other person loves being with you. remember, even kindness can get exhausted.
4) Respect: Loving a person also equals respecting the person. If your lover decides to or decides not to do something, respect that decision. do not ever force the person you love to do something he or she does not like to do. if he or she tell your his or her dreams, or share her problem with you, do not laugh at her. always listen, offer a crying shoulder and never make her feel worst or put her down.
5) Accepting: You fell in love with the girl in shabby clothes in the first place, why do you need to change the way she dresses later on in the relationship? you fell in love with her as she originally was, if you change her, won't she be a different person already? learn to accept little things like that in a relationship. do not attempt to change him or her. i'll be really hurting. it's like asking the other person to be something or someone else they're not. if you are not satisfied with these little things, go find yourself someone else you think fits.
6) Talk: And i mean TALK not argue. no one relationship is perfect but doesn't mean you have to pick on every little thing to argue about. if you find something that you might not be happy about, talk it through. there is no use in arguing. arguing only will created more anger. when anger is not resolved, there will be bigger consequences to pay.
7) Listen: Sometimes we talk so much, we forget to listen. listen when your lover is talking, do not interrupt him or her till she is done. and listen carefully. as every sentence has it's hidden meanings. listen carefully. sometimes it's not always the other party that is at fault. sometimes lowerring your ego and admitting your own mistakes can be a blessing in disguise.
8)Go Slow: Marriage and children can wait. why not take the moment and enjoy loving each other first? rushing into things can be a big mistake. there are people who likes being love and not rush. don't make hasty plans for the future. being in a relationship is already a big commitment. don't pressure your love one with more. they might run a mile, and very quickly away from you.
**so here are a few thing i think is important for those who are in a relationship, as for me, may it help you in anyways**
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